I thought I would address why I named this blog “Open Up.” Very simply, it’s the opposite of “shut up” which is what many of our oppressors want us to do. It seems like more than anything, when a woman speaks her mind she is subject to a unique set of character assaults. These include:
1) She is a slut/whore/prostitute
2) She is undesirable to men.
3) She is ugly.
4) She is masculine.
5) She is stupid.
6) She is nagging or whiney.
7) She uses her sexuality to manipulate men.
8) She is money hungry.
9) She is aggressive and bitchy and hates everyone, especially men.
10) She is uptight.
Despite the fact that some of these are contradictory, they are almost completely exclusive to women. Interestingly enough, the biggest insult men is to call him a woman in some way or another.
As of late, Sandra Fluke is a perfect example of this.
As it stands right now, the name Sandra Fluke is nationally known not because of anything she has done personally, but because she has been insulted for standing up for an issue she felt strongly about.
Earlier this year, Ms. Fluke addressed a committee in the House regarding the issue Church-run businesses were having with the requirement to mandating coverage of contraception in the Affordable Care Act (aka Obamacare).
I’ll spare rehashing the details because by now, I’m sure we all know them, but as soon as she spoke out, the shit storm against her started.
Most famously, Conservative radio personality, Rush Limbaugh accused her of being a slut and a prostitute because she wants the American people to pay for her to have sex and exhibiting a complete lack of knowledge of how birth control pills work, said that she must be having so much sex it costs $1,000 per year for contraception.
Any woman that has ever taken birth control knows that’s not how it works, but that’s actually not the point. Limbaugh continues the next day saying that he wants all women on birth control to video tape themselves having sex so he can watch since his tax dollars are going to go to paying for their birth control.
This is also entirely untrue, but I’ll skip rehashing the whole thing once again and continue with my example.
So, this is a perfect example, right? She spoke her mind and in response was called a prostitute and a slut.
But wait…was she just called a slut and a prostitute because of the topic she was advocating?
That could be true, until you look at a more recent jab by Monica Crowley of Fox News when she learned that Ms. Fluke was engaged. She tweeted, “To a man? ‘Sandra Fluke Announces Engagement'”
Soooo, she’s a slut and a prostitute, but she’s a lesbian?
Okay, being accused of being a lesbian is offensive if you harbor homophobic ideas or if you realize that the intention of that comment was to associate homosexuality with negativity, which is done far too often.
Either way, it seems we have another “shut up” tactic here.
I know this is scary, but put yourself in Ms. Crowley’s shoes and think about what would have made her post that. Was it a genuine question? Had there been previous reports that Sandra Fluke was a lesbian? Not that I know of, and there has been plenty of insults thrown her way that allude to the contrary (the whole slut, prostitute, having so much sex she needs tons of birth control thing). So it wasn’t a question…
Crowley claims it was a joke. Okay, let’s try that.
“Funny story: I was reading that Sandra Fluke announced her engagement today and I thought, ‘to a man?’ Haha…wait…that’s not really funny.
So either she really sucks at telling jokes, or she was implying that either Sandra Fluke is a lesbian or that she’s surprised she has a boyfriend.
I suppose this isn’t surprising considering these are the types of insults women like to use against other women. “You’re ugly, you’re fat, you’re not pretty, no man wants you”
Either way, throwing insults at someone is what people do when logic and valid arguments escape them. It’s their attempt to make us feel bad so we shut up.
So if you’re speaking your mind and people are calling you names like slut, whore, ugly, stupid, you know you’re getting under their skin and they would like nothing more than for you to shut up.
So instead of shutting up and retreating, open up and let your voice be heard!
Resources:
Huffington Post Article about Monica Crowley’s tweet.
Timeline for Limbaugh vs. Fluke Story